tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1210289272712847060.post1339062088033262869..comments2018-08-17T05:33:02.180-07:00Comments on Online Parent Support: A Community of Parents Supporting One Another: Adult-Minor DatingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1210289272712847060.post-16035138357467927812007-10-24T10:34:00.001-07:002007-10-24T10:34:00.001-07:00YES! OH GOD YES!!! She doesn't know what she wants...YES! OH GOD YES!!! She doesn't know what she wants in life, and some creep is going to basically take her life away from her, where i live, this happens alot, and most of the girls end up running away with some other dude who they say is their soul mate, or commit suicide. He should be looking for girls his OWN age, He could go to jail for what he is doing, even if it is consented You need to end this, before anything else happens. If he is smoking pot, do you really want your daughter to be with a man who is a pot addict?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1210289272712847060.post-17379328810514679102007-10-24T10:34:00.000-07:002007-10-24T10:34:00.000-07:00First, I will not judge this relationship or you. ...First, I will not judge this relationship or you. Here is my story, I hope it helps in some way. Your "All" in my thoughts.<BR/><BR/>Oh- I feel your frustration. Just consider this.....option..<BR/><BR/>Have confidence in yourself and your child. At age 15, you have already planted the foundation of morals, character and respect in your child.<BR/><BR/>Step back. Breath. You were 15. I was 15.<BR/>We are growing, changing and experimenting. That is part of life right?<BR/><BR/>As a parent, share the truth as you know it-<BR/>The house rules are this......<BR/>The dating rules are this.....<BR/>I feel strongly about this.....<BR/>I love you and will trust YOU to make the right choices and will Beside you to help you make them.<BR/><BR/>Show her HOW to be responsibile for her body, spirit and emotional being. Help her be a woman. She techincally, physically is capable to be a mother "right now". So lets give her that lesson as well. Help her set "real physcial boundries" and be with her and support her as SHE tells him that, if nesscary.<BR/><BR/>Take her to the doctor, make sure she is safe. Calmly tell her the "real" reality of sex- disease that comes with any sexual contact, the emotional complexity of relationships no matter the age is difficult.<BR/><BR/>Then with ease and grace set back and let her make the choices. Be there to support her in this process. Do not ignore her, yet.....Dad.... your baby is gone, she is a woman and you are the man she loves most in life. No matter what happens.<BR/><BR/>The hormones are happening, you can only help her make right choices. If this is a good boy, then keep him very close.<BR/>Have them at YOUR house, all the time. They can't makeout on the living room sofa "too much" if your in the other room. Right?!<BR/><BR/>I'm not blowin smoke up your A!<BR/>This really works. It has several times.<BR/>The first example is my very own. I was 16 and he was 21.<BR/>We actually dated and went on weekend trips together, we never had sex, yet came close a few times. I set my boundries with help and love, support from my parents.<BR/><BR/>As a parent, it hurts to be "out of control" or worse "out of the loop " of information.<BR/><BR/>If you share custody with the MOM, please come together on this issue. Form a united front of love and support for your child.<BR/><BR/>I was raised by good parents, great morals and they set wonderful examples of relationships and so forth.<BR/>I had sex at age 15 and just barely there. I wanted too. My choice and it was a great experience. It changed my life.<BR/>The person I dated, the older man, never knew this, I never told anyone, we never had sex in our 2 years of relationship. It was my body and I respected it. I was empowered as a woman with the knowledge of "what" a mistake could cost me forever.<BR/><BR/>I told my best friend this truth at my twenty year HS reunion. He said he got into a fight with some guy "over" my honor/ virginity because HE Knew with out a doubt that I was a "repectful young lady" in High school and I was. Just not a virgin, per say. I told my mother about it, at age 16, just as I started to date a 21 year old, she was scared for me. She gave me the "no" tools that only a mature woman would know. I often used her as my excuse to get "home" to avoid a situation that would bring on temptation. My father, got to know my boyfriend and "be friended" him, they became great pals. He embraced him in a mature manner, and they did "guy" things together. That actually was the best thing ever. I loved my Dad for doing that. I never knew if Dad knew about my experiences, yet he did know that I was protected and very confident that HE was on my side of any situation.<BR/><BR/>So if you can- step out of the picture and look at it again. Perhaps this information will help you.<BR/>Best wishes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com