tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1210289272712847060.post7349237659641143061..comments2018-08-17T05:33:02.180-07:00Comments on Online Parent Support: A Community of Parents Supporting One Another: I caught my friends 11yr old daughter at the shops with a group of kids, no adults, she told me not to tell?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1210289272712847060.post-74983161659197718502008-07-30T09:09:00.001-07:002008-07-30T09:09:00.001-07:00i say you just forget about it,1. your not gonna g...i say you just forget about it,<BR/>1. your not gonna gain anything by telling on her<BR/>2. this happened a while ago<BR/>3. it would be so pointless to get the poor girl in possible trouble<BR/>i mean unless she was possibly endangering herself, or others(sex, drugs, steeling, etc.) then why tell?<BR/><BR/>its not like your lying to YOUR friend, and hey actually the girl would think that your pretty cool and would trust you with even more and important things, that her mom would actually really need to know, and the kids at school could think that your daughter has a really cool and nice mom, so all in all its a win win situation<BR/>no one gets hurt. no one gets in trouble. and no drama!<BR/>lol.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1210289272712847060.post-15128129085377383822008-07-30T09:09:00.000-07:002008-07-30T09:09:00.000-07:00I'd be a little concerned they've started 'stuffin...I'd be a little concerned they've started 'stuffing about' and getting into even minor truoble this could potentially escalate. I am strict with my boys (all five of them) and the older ones who are my step sons are all cool about discussing things they had a lot of behaviour problems including rides home in police cars when they lived with their mom. I guess you should mention it to your friend as if the worst came to the worse how would you feel? offer to the girl that she could come out with you and your daughter on an off days if you can...explain to your daughter if you do it too that way she'll be prepared x x good luck its not nice but you're the adult, even if shes not your responsibility you obviously feel a duty to her and her mom.<BR/>Added: does your friend even know this other friend is dropping them off? is your friend doing this purely out of necessity to work, and isn't aware of what her child is up to...her trust may be misplaced in this other childcare friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1210289272712847060.post-34764858479786993542008-07-30T09:08:00.000-07:002008-07-30T09:08:00.000-07:00I have to answer this. It would be in both the gir...I have to answer this. It would be in both the girl's and her mother's interest to know what she is doing. I know a lot of you are saying "I used to...". That was then, this is now. Especially, with this generation that has little value on anything anymore. It only takes one 'genius' idea to get the whole lot of them into mischief. Who's going to save her a$$ then? Back in the day, if you screwed up big, the cops got a hold of you and beat your a$$ then sent you to your parents. Then they would beat you a$$.<BR/><BR/>We're now in an age where there are predators everywhere. Parents are accountable for the safety of their children. Do you mean to tell me that a couple of teenagers can hold off men carrying guns while taking a young girl away for whatever reason? Did that parent know, for a fact, that her child was somewhere safe? She dropped her there. Now she gone. Who has the answer? The teen boys with .38 caliber holes in their heads?<BR/><BR/>For another, the mother trusted another parent to help watch her, not drop her off somewhere for her own personal convenience. What was the other adult doing that she couldn't be bothered with an 11 year old?<BR/><BR/>Can any of you answer all the questions that will be coming out of the crying eyes of the mother, if anything happened to her little girl? Anyone?<BR/><BR/>I don't mind kids going out and having fun. But, there has to be structure. "Where are you going? Who are you going with? Do they have cell phones? What will you be doing? What time are you coming home? Or, you will be home at this time."<BR/><BR/>Take charge of your children. Have the children take responsibility. Keep them safe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com