Are giving consequences the only thing I can do?

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Mark, I posted in the chat under anonymous users 472 and 279. I am the one with the 16 yr. old who wouldn't talk for 34 days because I took his computer away for being hitting his sister (13) and myself. Well, he now has hit her door so hard it broke her mirror on the other side simply because she didn't answer him fast enough. He wanted to use the phone and she had it. He has a cell phone and we have another phone in the house. He looked for those phones for "2 minutes" he said, but he said he was justified at being so angry at her because "she had the phone and wouldn't answer him when he wanted it." When I asked him about forgetting her and looking further to find the other phone in the house or his phone in his room, he said it didn't matter. His main thing was that he thought she should have given the phone to him right away. He said he wasn't going to replace the mirror. He started cursing and crying and getting angry again and stormed out of the house tonight when I took his laptop away. I told him I would do that the next time he was physically agressive. Neither parent was home at the time this happened. I was calm and was the mediator to hear both kids talk about what happened. What do I do with such anger from him? He will not go to therapy. He's like a walking time bomb. What happens if he cannot see that his anger is a problem and blames everything on everyone else? Are giving consequences the only thing I can do?

My daughter has quit school...

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My daughter has quit school and has no direction will not return to study is staying out late, drinking in excess and I would like to know how to get her motivation and direction for her study.

I am almost giving up on my son...

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Hi! I really hope I can get some help. I am almost giving up on my son...it hurts to much to see what he has become and I cant reach him.He has become another person. He his 16 and have a few court cases coming up for stealing, armed robbery, grafting, ets..He dont listen to anyone. He has a curfew from the police. He dont care and comes and goes as he likes. I am tired of being worried and have to pick him up from the police station or having them coming home to look for him.Hi has so much potential but he is waisting it all. He is not going to school, they took him out from there. Like anyone else, we tried different thing to help him. He is a sweet boy and something went wrong.I just want to help him before its to late.