He has been putting fun and friends before his workouts...
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My 16.5 year old daughter just had temper, swearing fit...
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My 16.5 year old daughter just had temper, swearing fit because I didn't give her what she wanted...she went out and said she wasn't coming home. She is also pregnant and is planning on having an abortion but because I didn't give into letting her boyfriend sleepover tonight she said she is going to have the baby just to piss us off!!
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My 16.5 year old daughter just had temper, swearing fit because I didn't give her what she wanted...she went out and said she wasn't coming home. She is also pregnant and is planning on having an abortion but because I didn't give into letting her boyfriend sleepover tonight she said she is going to have the baby just to piss us off!!
My 15 year old son has decided to move across the country to live with his dad...
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I need help with the following issue: my 15 year old son has decided to move across the country to live with his dad in one months time because he cant stand living here anymore. The issue is that he is not coming home from friends house on any kind of regular basis in the last 2 months, is extremely disrespectful and does not feel that he has to abide by any rules. His dad is supporting this move and i feel like i have no ability to parent my son at this point. I sincerely wish that i had found this program sooner.
I need help with the following issue: my 15 year old son has decided to move across the country to live with his dad in one months time because he cant stand living here anymore. The issue is that he is not coming home from friends house on any kind of regular basis in the last 2 months, is extremely disrespectful and does not feel that he has to abide by any rules. His dad is supporting this move and i feel like i have no ability to parent my son at this point. I sincerely wish that i had found this program sooner.
I have tried every trick in the book...
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I have two girls and an nine year old son my problem has been going for a very long time and I have tried every trick in the book when ever I ask them to help to do a job or something they don’t like to here they scream obscenities at me and they rant and scream. There is no stop button on them the two girls are at it every day when I give them a consequence they scream louder and swear they called me every name you can think of I wish I could kick them out but I would not be able to live with myself. my lovely placid son is getting very sad about it I am at the end of my tether if it was not for my son I would defiantly leave. My husband works long hours and is away quite a lot and he is at a loss as well the girls are ruing my life and my sanity also has a big impact on my marriage.
I have two girls and an nine year old son my problem has been going for a very long time and I have tried every trick in the book when ever I ask them to help to do a job or something they don’t like to here they scream obscenities at me and they rant and scream. There is no stop button on them the two girls are at it every day when I give them a consequence they scream louder and swear they called me every name you can think of I wish I could kick them out but I would not be able to live with myself. my lovely placid son is getting very sad about it I am at the end of my tether if it was not for my son I would defiantly leave. My husband works long hours and is away quite a lot and he is at a loss as well the girls are ruing my life and my sanity also has a big impact on my marriage.
He just doesn't care about school...
Parents_Support_One_Another_@_MyOutOfControlTeen_com/support = I need help with the following issue: He just doesn't care about school, the work or the teachers, he can be very well behaved at home do chores or other things he's asked to do but when it comes to school forget it. He's in 9th grade and failing. 2 of his teachers already requested he be dropped from the class because he is disrespectful and disrupts the other students. We have taken everything away and he sits home all day after school. We just don't know what else to do.
We had problems with her creating a private facebook profile...
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I need help with the following issue:
I'm just starting my session 1 assignments. Can I introduce a chore list and a behavior/consequence contract during this time? Or should I wait until session 2? Also before I started this program I had taken away my daughters tv, cell phone, and access to the computer. should I give those back now and start fresh and new? We had problems with her creating a private facebook profile with out our consent and was using it to live her so called double life which included friends talking about using drugs and abusing alcohol , and since we have taken that priviledge away she has been ok without it..how long should I keep her from using facebook and she does have facebook on her phone...I told her about a week ago that when we choose to let her have a facebook profile again that I would need to be friends with her on it to help regulate it..but that is what I was already doing on her main facebook profile, then she created the second one without my knowledge until I figured it out when I was informed of her secret boyfriend and drug and alcohol use.
I need help with the following issue:
I'm just starting my session 1 assignments. Can I introduce a chore list and a behavior/consequence contract during this time? Or should I wait until session 2? Also before I started this program I had taken away my daughters tv, cell phone, and access to the computer. should I give those back now and start fresh and new? We had problems with her creating a private facebook profile with out our consent and was using it to live her so called double life which included friends talking about using drugs and abusing alcohol , and since we have taken that priviledge away she has been ok without it..how long should I keep her from using facebook and she does have facebook on her phone...I told her about a week ago that when we choose to let her have a facebook profile again that I would need to be friends with her on it to help regulate it..but that is what I was already doing on her main facebook profile, then she created the second one without my knowledge until I figured it out when I was informed of her secret boyfriend and drug and alcohol use.
We wanted to transfer her out of this school to our local private High School...
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I need help with the following issue:
I have a meeting with my 15 year olds school councelor in 2 days to discuss a plan for her lack of responsibility and continuing to be tarty and some unexcused absences from some classes. We wanted to transfer her out of this school to our local private High School because of these issues plus having issues with her seeing a 17 year old boyfriend who she hid from us because of his lifestyle which includes drugs, alcohol and no parental involvement or rules. I was notified by a concerned friend about her doing the drug "ecstacy" which completely shocked me and scared me because I am very cautious about where I allow my daughter to go and who she hangs out with. This is when I became aware of all the lying and disrespect came next. She refused to sign the student form for the New private high school, so I have made a new arrangement so it puts the ball in her court. I am making a contract between parent and teen that states what we expect of her for her to continue at this same high school and if she doesnt follow then we will transfer her to the private high school.My question is..what if she does break the contract and she still refuses to go to this private high school? And am I handeling this in the right way?
I need help with the following issue:
I have a meeting with my 15 year olds school councelor in 2 days to discuss a plan for her lack of responsibility and continuing to be tarty and some unexcused absences from some classes. We wanted to transfer her out of this school to our local private High School because of these issues plus having issues with her seeing a 17 year old boyfriend who she hid from us because of his lifestyle which includes drugs, alcohol and no parental involvement or rules. I was notified by a concerned friend about her doing the drug "ecstacy" which completely shocked me and scared me because I am very cautious about where I allow my daughter to go and who she hangs out with. This is when I became aware of all the lying and disrespect came next. She refused to sign the student form for the New private high school, so I have made a new arrangement so it puts the ball in her court. I am making a contract between parent and teen that states what we expect of her for her to continue at this same high school and if she doesnt follow then we will transfer her to the private high school.My question is..what if she does break the contract and she still refuses to go to this private high school? And am I handeling this in the right way?
Are giving consequences the only thing I can do?
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Mark, I posted in the chat under anonymous users 472 and 279. I am the one with the 16 yr. old who wouldn't talk for 34 days because I took his computer away for being hitting his sister (13) and myself. Well, he now has hit her door so hard it broke her mirror on the other side simply because she didn't answer him fast enough. He wanted to use the phone and she had it. He has a cell phone and we have another phone in the house. He looked for those phones for "2 minutes" he said, but he said he was justified at being so angry at her because "she had the phone and wouldn't answer him when he wanted it." When I asked him about forgetting her and looking further to find the other phone in the house or his phone in his room, he said it didn't matter. His main thing was that he thought she should have given the phone to him right away. He said he wasn't going to replace the mirror. He started cursing and crying and getting angry again and stormed out of the house tonight when I took his laptop away. I told him I would do that the next time he was physically agressive. Neither parent was home at the time this happened. I was calm and was the mediator to hear both kids talk about what happened. What do I do with such anger from him? He will not go to therapy. He's like a walking time bomb. What happens if he cannot see that his anger is a problem and blames everything on everyone else? Are giving consequences the only thing I can do?
I need help with the following issue:
Mark, I posted in the chat under anonymous users 472 and 279. I am the one with the 16 yr. old who wouldn't talk for 34 days because I took his computer away for being hitting his sister (13) and myself. Well, he now has hit her door so hard it broke her mirror on the other side simply because she didn't answer him fast enough. He wanted to use the phone and she had it. He has a cell phone and we have another phone in the house. He looked for those phones for "2 minutes" he said, but he said he was justified at being so angry at her because "she had the phone and wouldn't answer him when he wanted it." When I asked him about forgetting her and looking further to find the other phone in the house or his phone in his room, he said it didn't matter. His main thing was that he thought she should have given the phone to him right away. He said he wasn't going to replace the mirror. He started cursing and crying and getting angry again and stormed out of the house tonight when I took his laptop away. I told him I would do that the next time he was physically agressive. Neither parent was home at the time this happened. I was calm and was the mediator to hear both kids talk about what happened. What do I do with such anger from him? He will not go to therapy. He's like a walking time bomb. What happens if he cannot see that his anger is a problem and blames everything on everyone else? Are giving consequences the only thing I can do?
My daughter has quit school...
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My daughter has quit school and has no direction will not return to study is staying out late, drinking in excess and I would like to know how to get her motivation and direction for her study.
My daughter has quit school and has no direction will not return to study is staying out late, drinking in excess and I would like to know how to get her motivation and direction for her study.
I am almost giving up on my son...
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Hi! I really hope I can get some help. I am almost giving up on my son...it hurts to much to see what he has become and I cant reach him.He has become another person. He his 16 and have a few court cases coming up for stealing, armed robbery, grafting, ets..He dont listen to anyone. He has a curfew from the police. He dont care and comes and goes as he likes. I am tired of being worried and have to pick him up from the police station or having them coming home to look for him.Hi has so much potential but he is waisting it all. He is not going to school, they took him out from there. Like anyone else, we tried different thing to help him. He is a sweet boy and something went wrong.I just want to help him before its to late.
Hi! I really hope I can get some help. I am almost giving up on my son...it hurts to much to see what he has become and I cant reach him.He has become another person. He his 16 and have a few court cases coming up for stealing, armed robbery, grafting, ets..He dont listen to anyone. He has a curfew from the police. He dont care and comes and goes as he likes. I am tired of being worried and have to pick him up from the police station or having them coming home to look for him.Hi has so much potential but he is waisting it all. He is not going to school, they took him out from there. Like anyone else, we tried different thing to help him. He is a sweet boy and something went wrong.I just want to help him before its to late.
Son is using marijuana...
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I need help with the following issue:
We have discovered that our 18 yr old son is using marijuana. Right now he is sullen and uncommunicative with us. We are trying to determine the extent of his use. Do you have any advice on how we should go about trying to talk to him about this? Worried Mom and Dad
I need help with the following issue:
We have discovered that our 18 yr old son is using marijuana. Right now he is sullen and uncommunicative with us. We are trying to determine the extent of his use. Do you have any advice on how we should go about trying to talk to him about this? Worried Mom and Dad
Mother is allowing the kids to get high...
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I am fairly certain that my son has been going over a friend's house where the mother is allowing the kids to get high- and possibly smoking with them.
I told him he wasn't allowed over there but I am sure he will sneak over there. He is in drug counseling and is on probation for running away. I believe he is smoking K2 so it doesn't show up on his drug tests.
I know he is going to smoke regardless if he goes there but I really don't think ignoring this situation is best. Should I confront the mother and tell her that my son is not allowed there? Any other suggestions?
My Out-of-Control Teen
I am fairly certain that my son has been going over a friend's house where the mother is allowing the kids to get high- and possibly smoking with them.
I told him he wasn't allowed over there but I am sure he will sneak over there. He is in drug counseling and is on probation for running away. I believe he is smoking K2 so it doesn't show up on his drug tests.
I know he is going to smoke regardless if he goes there but I really don't think ignoring this situation is best. Should I confront the mother and tell her that my son is not allowed there? Any other suggestions?
My Out-of-Control Teen
I got into yelling matches with my daughter...
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To user 471: You are only human I got into yelling matches with my daughter and my friend said she got to the point where one day her and her daughter were pulling each others hair its not what we want as mother but they push and push to our absolute limit. my daughter said that's why she left but after 6 moths of her away I know now that wasn't it because its been something different every time she changes the excuses all the time she just wants to do what she wants and they really don't care how it affects you teenagers are really selfish you are not alone.
To user 471: You are only human I got into yelling matches with my daughter and my friend said she got to the point where one day her and her daughter were pulling each others hair its not what we want as mother but they push and push to our absolute limit. my daughter said that's why she left but after 6 moths of her away I know now that wasn't it because its been something different every time she changes the excuses all the time she just wants to do what she wants and they really don't care how it affects you teenagers are really selfish you are not alone.
Daughter lied about where she was...
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I need help with the following issue:
My 15 yr old daughter lied about where she was last Saturday night. She said she was at a friends house with a group watching movies. I asked for the land line number, as she was spending the night there,(the 2nd night in a row)and later found out she gave me a friends cell number instead. I tried repeatedly to call and text her and she did not answer. Eventually I called the number she gave me and her friend said she was asleep. An hour later she called and said she was fine and asleep, why was i bugging her? The next day she confessed, after threatening to call parents of the house she said she was at, that she and her friends spent the night at a boys house. Said there were parents home, no drugs or alcohol, but would not give me any further info to confirm her story. I took her phone away, banned her from sleepovers,and grounded her for a week. Does the consequences fit the punishment? What straight forward behaviors can she do to earn her privligles back?
I need help with the following issue:
My 15 yr old daughter lied about where she was last Saturday night. She said she was at a friends house with a group watching movies. I asked for the land line number, as she was spending the night there,(the 2nd night in a row)and later found out she gave me a friends cell number instead. I tried repeatedly to call and text her and she did not answer. Eventually I called the number she gave me and her friend said she was asleep. An hour later she called and said she was fine and asleep, why was i bugging her? The next day she confessed, after threatening to call parents of the house she said she was at, that she and her friends spent the night at a boys house. Said there were parents home, no drugs or alcohol, but would not give me any further info to confirm her story. I took her phone away, banned her from sleepovers,and grounded her for a week. Does the consequences fit the punishment? What straight forward behaviors can she do to earn her privligles back?
My daughter's father plays the good guy...
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My daughter's father plays the good guy and will not back me up on issues and does not follow through with the same boundries.
My daughter's father plays the good guy and will not back me up on issues and does not follow through with the same boundries.
My daughter is 16 years old, and at 15 years ran away 3 times...
My daughter is 16 years old, and at 15 years ran away 3 times. As we come from Scotland once she turned 16 she became an adult(I dont agree with this law) and after many rows and horrible behaviour calling me a bitch etc every day she used to say if you dont like the way I behave kick me out and one day after her telling me to F--k off in the street as she went to school I blurted out dont come back she didnt but the next day all happy on the phone as me a question for a pregnant friend and I said I think you should be saying something different to me like sorry and slammed the phone down i was so angry with her . She has been away for 5 months now staying with her friends mum initially I kept in contact with this mum but when I said to her that it was wrong to keep her there enough was enough she stopped answering my call .
My daughter did come home for xmas eve got her presents in the morning and then left 3 days later she rang me at night as she was so ill and I nursed for 2 days took time off my work to do so and on new years eve she asked her dad to drive her to her boyfriends on the way back from the hospital and we haven't seen her since she has txt a couple of times . I was really ill with swine flu and she never txt to ask how I was even when she knew. In all of this she left school with no qualifications even though she was an straight A student . The family she is with does not have the same eduactional standards as we had hoped . We tried family mediation till she stormed out and refused to come back. Her own person from mediation she chose rang me and said.
she said she is going to ring you at the end of the month to meet and then with a view to coming home at end of february but I know this is a lie because if she wanted come home she would have by now .I am devastated and have cried everyday she has been away. She has been so nasty and I know reading the book that this is what out of control teenagers are like but I'm struggling with the fact that she doesn't kep in contact and I have not contacted her for 14 days now because all I get is lies and evryone around me says leave her be let her come to you. I guess I just need advice as to know if I'm doing the right thing or how do I get my daughter back in our lives?
My Out-of-Control Daughter
My daughter did come home for xmas eve got her presents in the morning and then left 3 days later she rang me at night as she was so ill and I nursed for 2 days took time off my work to do so and on new years eve she asked her dad to drive her to her boyfriends on the way back from the hospital and we haven't seen her since she has txt a couple of times . I was really ill with swine flu and she never txt to ask how I was even when she knew. In all of this she left school with no qualifications even though she was an straight A student . The family she is with does not have the same eduactional standards as we had hoped . We tried family mediation till she stormed out and refused to come back. Her own person from mediation she chose rang me and said.
she said she is going to ring you at the end of the month to meet and then with a view to coming home at end of february but I know this is a lie because if she wanted come home she would have by now .I am devastated and have cried everyday she has been away. She has been so nasty and I know reading the book that this is what out of control teenagers are like but I'm struggling with the fact that she doesn't kep in contact and I have not contacted her for 14 days now because all I get is lies and evryone around me says leave her be let her come to you. I guess I just need advice as to know if I'm doing the right thing or how do I get my daughter back in our lives?
My Out-of-Control Daughter
My 15 year old son keeps sneaking out at night...
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My 15 year old son keeps sneaking out at night after we go to bed. He lies and says he has been out running, but he has been caught going to his girlfriends. He has come home with hickies on him. Grounding isn't working. Do you have any advise?
My 15 year old son keeps sneaking out at night after we go to bed. He lies and says he has been out running, but he has been caught going to his girlfriends. He has come home with hickies on him. Grounding isn't working. Do you have any advise?
Stepson is a drug user...
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I have a 16 year old stepson who is always asking for $5 because he is a drug user. When my wife tells him no, he becomes very violent with her and begins destroying whatever is in his path. When we try to get him to earn his money he will reject that but my wife still gives in. I fear that he will hurt her because he is on probation for already assaulting her. It doesn't seem to matter to her because she doesn't want to get the police involved in those moments because she doesn't want him arrested. I feel helpless because if I try to stand up for her she takes his side and we get into argument because she blames herself for his behavior because of her previous marriage. I would like opinions on the matter and see if I can get any helpful advice on what I should do as a stepfather. Please keep in mind that we have a 12 year old and a 6 year old who have been subjected to these outbursts.
I have a 16 year old stepson who is always asking for $5 because he is a drug user. When my wife tells him no, he becomes very violent with her and begins destroying whatever is in his path. When we try to get him to earn his money he will reject that but my wife still gives in. I fear that he will hurt her because he is on probation for already assaulting her. It doesn't seem to matter to her because she doesn't want to get the police involved in those moments because she doesn't want him arrested. I feel helpless because if I try to stand up for her she takes his side and we get into argument because she blames herself for his behavior because of her previous marriage. I would like opinions on the matter and see if I can get any helpful advice on what I should do as a stepfather. Please keep in mind that we have a 12 year old and a 6 year old who have been subjected to these outbursts.
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