Honestly, I guess that there is nothing that you can do. If she is over 18, you can't stop her. All you can try to do is to talk to her about what she is doing. Explain how this really upsets you and hurts the family. Tell her that you wish for her to stop.
If she refuses, fighting with her isn't going to work because it will isolate her from you and cause arguments. It's her personal choice, and while some people might not agree with it, she seems to think it's ok (maybe it's for the money or that she feels better about herself).
All you can do is still love her and be there for her. Don't shut her out.
well be there for her but tell her its not something you want her doing or that you agree with it in any way.. if its money she needs try and help her find a real job or if its drugs (some ppl do get in to far) then she needs help from a doc..
I don't see how anyone would choose to be a prostitute without needing to. Does she have money problems? I dont mean to make you more upset but are you sure she isn't involved with drugs or anything like that because thats the most common reason for girls to become prostitutes. The best option would be to see if she is having any problems. Some girls just like the 'easy money" so there isn't much you can do if she is willing to keep doing it. Just be supportive.
I will put the fear of God into my daughter before she ever becomes a professional wh***...Girls these days need to be raised with some self respect and by strong independent women...If shes under 18 you better put that girl into check and quick....if she of age then there you have it..call the cops.
I would lock up her up in the house and never let her out again... LOL
Seriously though, I would talk and cry my heart out to her, expressing the dangers and diseases, problems and how important a education and a job is, also her reputation will be destroyed; that she is degrading herself. Anything that would knock some sense into her. Honestly though, I don't know what I would do; heaven forbid I tell ya.
sorry to hear this must have been quite a shock ,all you can do is try to show your daughter the other side of doing what shes doing example,sexual deseases,rape but dont do it in a way example scream,fight,because you could loose her forever in that world which would be a shame cause it is no life for anyone.
I found this thread on google, after looking for possible parental reactions to the concept. I don't like keeping secrets from my mother, but it seems like it might be best in this case. I don't want her to feel like she has failed as a mother, especially when I think this is one of the best desicions I have ever made. I am saving for a house, then investment properties. These days it's ridiculously difficult to get ahead, financially. Doing that 'something extra' is what it takes to kick start wealth and I am willing to make that personal choice and sacrifice.
I too have discovered my daughter is am escort. She is at uni and we have been giving her an allowance. She comes from a loving home and family. I feel so alone as I haven't told my husband or anyone else as he would be devastated. I feel I am carrying such a heavy burden and just want to curl up in a corner and cry. This is so against everything we have tried to teach her about self-worth and self respect. I don't feel I can talk to my GP or any of my family or friends. I feel so alone. I don't even know what to say to my daughter. I feel I have lost her. Can anyone advise.
My daughter is a prostitute, or escort or whatever you want to call it. She came home in September strung out on heroin, we got her into detox, treatment, counseling where she kicked the heroin and then decided that she didn't want a "job" and went back to selling herself. She's been arrested twice for prostitution and I've tried everything humanly possible. I've given it up to God and I pray that he shakes her up enough to set her straight. The fact of the matter is, we can't make them stop. I love her with all of my heart and I pray one day she'll return to the precious angel she once was. I don't wish this pain on anyone.
We have been wondering for years what his daughter was into,she finally came out an told us she was selling her self.She was so sure we would absolutly hate her,,We do hater her at all,we are very concerned for her an her son,but she is a grown adult.The other day she called an told me she really just wanted to do it more or less as a hobbie,but her man was telling her this is what she had to do,but she knows she does not have to do it,she says she would rather do it every once in a while.she is in Las vegas an is trying to find a safe way to get away with her child,if any one is in the area an really really just wants to help ,please send an email @ buddamommafourtyseven@gmail.com
My daughter is on heroin and pills, whatever she can shoot up. She came from a decent home, never abused. Drugs took her to prostitution. I can't force her into rehab, which she's been more than 5 times already and always left within days. I cry for her. I don't give her money anymore which is hard as well. I have seen my baby beaten so bad that I didn't even recognize her more than once. She's been to jail a few times. She has a son that I've had since he was 3 mo old and she hasn't seen him in over a year. She was advertising herself online but is now down to just walking the highway. I am sick and I cry a lot. Her addiction and lifestyle is killing me inside. I don't think she'll be alive for many more years. I feel there's no hope. So, to the rest of you parents, I hope God is watching our adult children and I'm praying for some kind of peace for all of us. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think she'd turn out this way. She was raised in a drug and alcohol free home. We all ate dinner together at the table every night. Couldn't get more normal. All her friends were partying so she moved out at 17 to be with them. Everything just escalated from there.
My daughter is 22, has been a prostitute for 1.5 years. When I have asked her to get out she gets defensive. I feel hopeless and am trying to find a parent group on how to cope....I cry and cry
My dtr is 17 and has been involved in selling herself for 2 years now. Her dad is a cop and I am a nurse although we have been divorced for most of her life she knows this is wrong. Yes it is painful. She comes home then sporadically leaves to go back to that lifestyle. She's been arrested numerous times and all I can conclude is that she is supporting a habit of some kind. Why else would a smart, beautiful girl with hopes and dreams of becoming an attorney and entering into the military choose turning tricks and having a pimp as a career? Especially when she has been raised in church and knows the Lord. I have a 5 year old son and when she does come to live with us for those brief times our world is tuned upside down and my perfornance at work declines, i can't sleep for concern over who she may let into my house. She quickly uses "well I will juat leave" or "post an ad" if I can't provide something for her or choose not to buy her something. She simply keeps "turning tricks" as an option never really being repentive, ashamed or sorrowful for her lifestyle. She tries to use me and my resources if she gets mad with her pimp and come home, refusing any real help (counseling, support group, church committment) then she WILLINGLY goes online and find another pimp then she's gone again. That just sounds like she's supporting a habit of some sort. I pray, cry and at the end of all this I realize she has got to want the help and maybe have some pain to cause her to want her to change. She absolutwly has got to welcome God in and stop allowing this lifestyle to be an option.
I understand everything you said. My daughter is street hooker and meth addict. She suffers from bipolaranxiety depression since she was 15years old. On top of that she has a son for which I am raising. She spent time in jail an was on 3 years probation. I can't say any of this out loud to a friend or family member. So here I am. Looking for a stranger to reach out to that can relate. I can handle almost anything she threw my way but this is making me feel as tho I am shrinking. I have to carry on an take care of my 9 year old grandson as if this is not happening.
My daughter called me last week and told me she was put into a shelter by the police as a victim of sex trafficking. That her 3 other friends were arrested for pimping and pandering. She told me she tryed to tell the police she wasn't a victim that she's done it before. Of course the police have to have a victim to have a crime. My daughter just turned 18 end of 2017. She had a B GPA and had plans of going to college. I can take part blame because I am a meth addict and homeless. I was renting a room when my daughter decided to come live with me in her junior year of high school. The lady ended up taking the rent and throwing our stuff out in the street. After that my daughter has stayed with my friends who also have kids so she could be stable and finish school. She finally ended up at her grandma's and had got her first job at a fast food restaurant. I was very proud of her. But she feels I'm choosing my addiction over her, which is no excuse, she is responsible for her choices. I'm on my way to visit her in the shelter, which she wants to stay in. I love her no matter what. All I want is for my children to find joy and to truly love themselves, something I have yet to do. How do I express to my daughter that I love her and my addiction is from my own childhood and that I just wanted the best for her and I wasn't it.
I feel like I am right with you. So alone!! Sleepless night crying. It hurts so bad. knowing your child you gave birth to and taught her right. I don't where to go or who to turn to. I suspected sonetbing, then put a tracker on her car. Everyone thinks I am crazy for even thinking the things I think she is having sex for money. she has a nice home, loving family, no drugs. I found her Journal. I told her in a delicate way. she knows I know? I don't think she cares. it's not like her. Now she has apartment, new car, shops and no real job. She rather not talk to me. what do I do. I've tried to be nice to her to stat close because I didn't want her to push me away. now she says I am the problem.
I can definitely relate. My daughter is 20 years old and she has left the state to do her prostitution. She rents rooms at different hotels and does her business there. She was raised with me, a single mom but always had the best home. Never wanted for food or clothes and always did well in school up until she was 15 then things started to change. She began smoking weed and hanging out with the wrong girls and eventually started this life of prostitution. I suspected it for quite some time when she would go and spend the night with her friends or at least that’s what she told me. Her attitude and everything started to change. She began to dress provocatively and I would always make her change her clothes but when she would get with her friends, they would lend her clothes, sexy clothes and then at 18 she was arrested for prostitution and then I knew for sure. Since she has become an adult, she enjoys the life of a prostitute. She says it’s fast money and no, she is not addicted to sex; at least that’s what she says. She’s a beautiful woman.... smart and can be anything that she wants to be and no, she’s not on drugs at all. Heck, she very rarely drinks so I don’t know why my daughter has decided to live this life as a prostitute but all I can do is pray for her and hope that one day she comes back home for good. I wish there were more that I could do. I’ve tried to get her to do counseling. She refuses. I have taken her to church with me. I’ve tried to stop her from leaving home but that only got me arrested twice for domestic violence. I love my daughter with all my heart and soul. She comes home at least five days every three months or so & when she’s here we try to enjoy her as much as we can but she always goes back. All you can do is pray and be there for them and never forsake them and let them know how much you love them. Mommy loves you baby and I’ll be right here whenever you need me ��
💔💔💔 I'm there too. Smart girl, raised right. God give us strength. This is unbareable most days. Some days I'm able to focus on work and my other family members, other days it's all I could do to wake up. Sleep is rare. I'm broken inside.
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Continue to love her! Try and help her find a way out if she is willing.
Can you afford therapy for her? If so, then get it for her. Your daughter has self-esteem issues.
Honestly, I guess that there is nothing that you can do. If she is over 18, you can't stop her. All you can try to do is to talk to her about what she is doing. Explain how this really upsets you and hurts the family. Tell her that you wish for her to stop.
If she refuses, fighting with her isn't going to work because it will isolate her from you and cause arguments. It's her personal choice, and while some people might not agree with it, she seems to think it's ok (maybe it's for the money or that she feels better about herself).
All you can do is still love her and be there for her. Don't shut her out.
First off..get her checked for any STD's.
Then love her and let her know that everythings alright.
Make sure she stops.
well be there for her but tell her its not something you want her doing or that you agree with it in any way.. if its money she needs try and help her find a real job or if its drugs (some ppl do get in to far) then she needs help from a doc..
I don't see how anyone would choose to be a prostitute without needing to. Does she have money problems? I dont mean to make you more upset but are you sure she isn't involved with drugs or anything like that because thats the most common reason for girls to become prostitutes. The best option would be to see if she is having any problems. Some girls just like the 'easy money" so there isn't much you can do if she is willing to keep doing it. Just be supportive.
I will put the fear of God into my daughter before she ever becomes a professional wh***...Girls these days need to be raised with some self respect and by strong independent women...If shes under 18 you better put that girl into check and quick....if she of age then there you have it..call the cops.
I would lock up her up in the house and never let her out again... LOL
Seriously though, I would talk and cry my heart out to her, expressing the dangers and diseases, problems and how important a education and a job is, also her reputation will be destroyed; that she is degrading herself. Anything that would knock some sense into her. Honestly though, I don't know what I would do; heaven forbid I tell ya.
sorry to hear this must have been quite a shock ,all you can do is try to show your daughter the other side of doing what shes doing example,sexual deseases,rape but dont do it in a way example scream,fight,because you could loose her forever in that world which would be a shame cause it is no life for anyone.
You can only love her because she's your child and let GOD handle the rest.
I found this thread on google, after looking for possible parental reactions to the concept. I don't like keeping secrets from my mother, but it seems like it might be best in this case. I don't want her to feel like she has failed as a mother, especially when I think this is one of the best desicions I have ever made. I am saving for a house, then investment properties. These days it's ridiculously difficult to get ahead, financially. Doing that 'something extra' is what it takes to kick start wealth and I am willing to make that personal choice and sacrifice.
I too have discovered my daughter is am escort. She is at uni and we have been giving her an allowance. She comes from a loving home and family. I feel so alone as I haven't told my husband or anyone else as he would be devastated. I feel I am carrying such a heavy burden and just want to curl up in a corner and cry. This is so against everything we have tried to teach her about self-worth and self respect. I don't feel I can talk to my GP or any of my family or friends. I feel so alone. I don't even know what to say to my daughter. I feel I have lost her. Can anyone advise.
My daughter is a prostitute, or escort or whatever you want to call it. She came home in September strung out on heroin, we got her into detox, treatment, counseling where she kicked the heroin and then decided that she didn't want a "job" and went back to selling herself. She's been arrested twice for prostitution and I've tried everything humanly possible. I've given it up to God and I pray that he shakes her up enough to set her straight. The fact of the matter is, we can't make them stop. I love her with all of my heart and I pray one day she'll return to the precious angel she once was. I don't wish this pain on anyone.
Be strong in faithful in the Lord Jesus Christ.
We have been wondering for years what his daughter was into,she finally came out an told us she was selling her self.She was so sure we would absolutly hate her,,We do hater her at all,we are very concerned for her an her son,but she is a grown adult.The other day she called an told me she really just wanted to do it more or less as a hobbie,but her man was telling her this is what she had to do,but she knows she does not have to do it,she says she would rather do it every once in a while.she is in Las vegas an is trying to find a safe way to get away with her child,if any one is in the area an really really just wants to help ,please send an email @ buddamommafourtyseven@gmail.com
My daughter is on heroin and pills, whatever she can shoot up. She came from a decent home, never abused. Drugs took her to prostitution. I can't force her into rehab, which she's been more than 5 times already and always left within days. I cry for her. I don't give her money anymore which is hard as well. I have seen my baby beaten so bad that I didn't even recognize her more than once. She's been to jail a few times. She has a son that I've had since he was 3 mo old and she hasn't seen him in over a year. She was advertising herself online but is now down to just walking the highway. I am sick and I cry a lot. Her addiction and lifestyle is killing me inside. I don't think she'll be alive for many more years. I feel there's no hope. So, to the rest of you parents, I hope God is watching our adult children and I'm praying for some kind of peace for all of us. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think she'd turn out this way. She was raised in a drug and alcohol free home. We all ate dinner together at the table every night. Couldn't get more normal. All her friends were partying so she moved out at 17 to be with them. Everything just escalated from there.
My daughter is 22, has been a prostitute for 1.5 years. When I have asked her to get out she gets defensive. I feel hopeless and am trying to find a parent group on how to cope....I cry and cry
It's not that easy I'm a former prostitute.
Most girl that go in to this field are victims of sexual abuse
My dtr is 17 and has been involved in selling herself for 2 years now. Her dad is a cop and I am a nurse although we have been divorced for most of her life she knows this is wrong. Yes it is painful. She comes home then sporadically leaves to go back to that lifestyle. She's been arrested numerous times and all I can conclude is that she is supporting a habit of some kind. Why else would a smart, beautiful girl with hopes and dreams of becoming an attorney and entering into the military choose turning tricks and having a pimp as a career? Especially when she has been raised in church and knows the Lord. I have a 5 year old son and when she does come to live with us for those brief times our world is tuned upside down and my perfornance at work declines, i can't sleep for concern over who she may let into my house. She quickly uses "well I will juat leave" or "post an ad" if I can't provide something for her or choose not to buy her something. She simply keeps "turning tricks" as an option never really being repentive, ashamed or sorrowful for her lifestyle. She tries to use me and my resources if she gets mad with her pimp and come home, refusing any real help (counseling, support group, church committment) then she WILLINGLY goes online and find another pimp then she's gone again. That just sounds like she's supporting a habit of some sort. I pray, cry and at the end of all this I realize she has got to want the help and maybe have some pain to cause her to want her to change. She absolutwly has got to welcome God in and stop allowing this lifestyle to be an option.
I understand everything you said. My daughter is street hooker and meth addict. She suffers from bipolaranxiety depression since she was 15years old. On top of that she has a son for which I am raising. She spent time in jail an was on 3 years probation. I can't say any of this out loud to a friend or family member. So here I am. Looking for a stranger to reach out to that can relate. I can handle almost anything she threw my way but this is making me feel as tho I am shrinking. I have to carry on an take care of my 9 year old grandson as if this is not happening.
I just found out my 40 year old daughter is a prostitute and it hurts when she comes home she had bad body oder
My daughter called me last week and told me she was put into a shelter by the police as a victim of sex trafficking. That her 3 other friends were arrested for pimping and pandering. She told me she tryed to tell the police she wasn't a victim that she's done it before. Of course the police have to have a victim to have a crime. My daughter just turned 18 end of 2017. She had a B GPA and had plans of going to college. I can take part blame because I am a meth addict and homeless. I was renting a room when my daughter decided to come live with me in her junior year of high school. The lady ended up taking the rent and throwing our stuff out in the street. After that my daughter has stayed with my friends who also have kids so she could be stable and finish school. She finally ended up at her grandma's and had got her first job at a fast food restaurant. I was very proud of her. But she feels I'm choosing my addiction over her, which is no excuse, she is responsible for her choices. I'm on my way to visit her in the shelter, which she wants to stay in. I love her no matter what. All I want is for my children to find joy and to truly love themselves, something I have yet to do. How do I express to my daughter that I love her and my addiction is from my own childhood and that I just wanted the best for her and I wasn't it.
Absolutely
I feel like I am right with you. So alone!! Sleepless night crying. It hurts so bad. knowing your child you gave birth to and taught her right. I don't where to go or who to turn to. I suspected sonetbing, then put a tracker on her car. Everyone thinks I am crazy for even thinking the things I think she is having sex for money. she has a nice home, loving family, no drugs. I found her Journal. I told her in a delicate way. she knows I know? I don't think she cares. it's not like her. Now she has apartment, new car, shops and no real job. She rather not talk to me. what do I do. I've tried to be nice to her to stat close because I didn't want her to push me away. now she says I am the problem.
I can definitely relate. My daughter is 20 years old and she has left the state to do her prostitution. She rents rooms at different hotels and does her business there. She was raised with me, a single mom but always had the best home. Never wanted for food or clothes and always did well in school up until she was 15 then things started to change. She began smoking weed and hanging out with the wrong girls and eventually started this life of prostitution. I suspected it for quite some time when she would go and spend the night with her friends or at least that’s what she told me. Her attitude and everything started to change. She began to dress provocatively and I would always make her change her clothes but when she would get with her friends, they would lend her clothes, sexy clothes and then at 18 she was arrested for prostitution and then I knew for sure. Since she has become an adult, she enjoys the life of a prostitute. She says it’s fast money and no, she is not addicted to sex; at least that’s what she says. She’s a beautiful woman.... smart and can be anything that she wants to be and no, she’s not on drugs at all. Heck, she very rarely drinks so I don’t know why my daughter has decided to live this life as a prostitute but all I can do is pray for her and hope that one day she comes back home for good. I wish there were more that I could do. I’ve tried to get her to do counseling. She refuses. I have taken her to church with me. I’ve tried to stop her from leaving home but that only got me arrested twice for domestic violence. I love my daughter with all my heart and soul. She comes home at least five days every three months or so & when she’s here we try to enjoy her as much as we can but she always goes back. All you can do is pray and be there for them and never forsake them and let them know how much you love them. Mommy loves you baby and I’ll be right here whenever you need me ��
💔💔💔 I'm there too. Smart girl, raised right. God give us strength. This is unbareable most days. Some days I'm able to focus on work and my other family members, other days it's all I could do to wake up. Sleep is rare. I'm broken inside.
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