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I need help with the following issue: I have the 7 year old that we are adopting. He is constantly lying. The school called me a while ago and told me the he got caught stealing from another student and for lying. I am at my wits end with him. Can anyone give me any suggestions on what to do. This isn't the first time this has happened.
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I was having the same prob w/my 6 y.o. I think he just thought it was funny to see the reaction on my face. But then I stopped paying it any attention. He would say a lie and I would just turn away. He would then say 'mom I am just kidding' Not laugh, smile, or say or you lieing just pretend I didnt hear it. So it actually has gotten better he still will do it every so often.
First thing,Don't Beat Him,Don't Threathen.When he lies again and you know that he lies punish him take him to a small corner and tell him you are going to sit here for 5 mins after that go back to him and ask him why did you lie what made you lie,but when u speak with him don't stand up go down to his eye level and talk with him,don't shout also it is very important,tell him how much u love him and care about him,and lying will not take him far away,try to explain what happens when ppl lie.Talk slowly and with a low tone.Good Luck:)hope it works
I hate to argue but lying back doesn't accomplish anything. Children learn some things by trial and error and others by copying their parents. I'm not saying you lie to him now BUT if you begin to lie to him it might just turn into a mimicking game.
I speak from experience with my daughter.
Does he only lie to you (and your spouse) or to everyone (teachers, doctors, friends)? This might be another indication of whether or not you need him checked out professionally. We went to our pastor and his wife (someone my daughter GREATLY respects) and so far, so good. Very little lying over the past year.
There needs to be consequence for lying, or he will not have any reason to stop doing it. Spank him when he lies, every time he lies. And I am not just talking about one or two swats across the seat of his pants, I am talking about a thorough bare bottom blistering. Be consistent, he will get the idea. If you have never spanked him and you are unsure or would like to discuss this further, feel free to e-mail me.
my stepson did this for years and i just about pulled my hair out from stress.Not only did he lie he stole and lied.Advice-get him into mental health as quickly as possible -he sounds like a compulsive liar and there is no way to stop it.We took my stepson too late to get help-he lives in some fantasy where he thinks he can get away with it.There is something in his personality that makes him lie -you have to get to the root of it or you will need counseling yourself
*note*punishment does NOT help because then he'll lie so that he won't get punished(he'll say he didn't do it or say someone else did)
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