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Our 16 year old son is using marijuana daily at lunch hour. How can we help him to stop? All his friends use/abuse. Do we just keep him safe and secure at home until 18, then ask him to leave if he is still using?
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There is nothing wrong with smoking pot. I am 21 and haven't smoked pot since high school. There is nothing wrong with, the more you make it seem bad the more he is going to act out. You know pot smokers are the ones you see stereotypically on tv, they just act out. Honestly, if you offered to toke up with him, he would probably want to quit. If he sees you wanting to do it, i might make so uncomfortable that he wants to quit. You really should be happy he didn't start drinking. Also, if you let him smoke grass at the high house, you wouldn't have to worry about him getting arrested. Most 16 year olds are riding around in cars and its dangerous and high likelihood of getting caught.
listen, you cant make him stop doing anything. it would be twice as bad if he was going out with his friends and getting drunk, or shooting up or anything basically other then pot but pot really isn't that bad. if you relaly want him to stop there is a little something you can buy that you put under his car and it will tell you everywhere he went and you could call the cops on the dealer. but you have to give more information like how often he smokes because if he is a stoner, then thats bad but if he just occasionally smokes weed keep on letting him. another approach is that you can send him to something called wilderness theripy programs which really suck (ive gone and i would really know) but it really sets kids straight no matter what they are on or what they are doing but its really expensive. also you could just ground him or make him go everywhere with you or something.
Don't bother arguing the health risks, since there aren't very many.
Instead, talk to him about drug laws, and what happens if someone with legal authority finds out. For example, drug charges can prevent him from getting federal financial aid for college (which I think is stupid, but that's besides the point). If he's getting the pot money by working, tell him that many workplaces give drug tests. In fact, some places are legally obliged to do so. If he's getting the pot money as an allowance, just stop giving it to him. If you're giving him lunch money in cash, don't. I know some kids who hoard the money instead of buying lunch.
Discipline him yourself. If you call the police, he will not trust you again. It is not that big a deal and he knows it. Panic like that doesn't help the situation. Would you call the police on him if he was drinking? Pot is no more serious than that except the legal part.
Let him know that you considered calling the police and how very dissapointed in him you are. That worked on me and it works on most kids even though they are good at not letting know it. Inspect his room periodically. Force him to do drug tests. Stop letting him set rules for a while. If you involve the police it will turn what may be just experimentation into something that he may never forgive you for. Just My Opinion.
Do a LOT of research on marijuana and you will find that it should definitely NOT be illegal.
That said, it shouldn't be taken by someone his age anymore than alcohol should. Also, it's still against the law and the law needs to be respected until it can be changed.
Grounding and calling the police aren't going to work. Sit down and TALK WITH YOUR SON.
I'm not saying you should let him smoke pot, far from it, but I am saying that not talking with him and trying to understand his point of view isn't going to help your relationship.
you should call the police but first you should talk with your son and find out a little more.
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