I am torn...
Since I have begun working the program with my 15 yr.old son, He is emphatic about going to live with his Dad. Of course at Dad's house there is very little structure and even less accountability. I am torn between fighting the good fight,which is accelerated due to this and just letting him go and learn he hard way. But at what cost? Anyone with any insight please speak up.
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let him go...... do it on a trial basis.... tell your son that you love him and are letting him go against your better judgement and your door is always open... tell your ex you want to see your son regularly and talk with him during the week also... let them both know that if you dont feel like he is being taken care of that you'll yank him back home so fast both thier heads will swim... in the meantime you keep legal custody of him... that way you can go bring him home if she is too irresponsible... or they give your son too much freedom...
after a year if your son still wants to be there and he seems to be ok, then relinquish custody to the dad legally...
if you dont let him go, he will resent you...
if you let him go, chances are in less than three months he will want to come back... he is probably thinking it would be cool to be there, but once he starts living there full time he will see it isnt as cool as week ends were....
Would your ex-husband do a good job raising him?
If yes, let him go. If no, fight to keep him.
Maybe you should let him go for a while and see what he's missing at home with you.
Don't worry. There's no love like a Mothers love. He'll be back.
Good luck !
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