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He's very strong and that scares me...

I have a 15 yr old son who is relatively calm and quiet. He's very strong and that scares me... when something makes him mad, he totally looses control... tonight I took his I pod away and he grabbed my arm and repeatedly punched me in the back. That happened after I heard my younger son screamnig because he threw him out of the room hurting him. I am very afraid of him now and he hasn't even apologized. My younger son is very frightened. My husband is on business and if I were to tell him, he'd react with violence, causing my son to become more violent. The police came and said they should arrest him but I felt he would be devastated and become very depressed if that happened and make things worse. I feel so helpless.

My Out-of-Control Teen

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

You should have let the cops take him. What the hell were you thinking? You just sent a very clear message to your son that violence against women is O.K.

Anonymous said...

I agree. You need the help of the authorities. You're decision to save your son from legal consequences probably does not make your other child feel very safe.

Anonymous said...

File a complaint with the police before something really bad happens.

Anonymous said...

I would try to talk to him about the seriousness of what happened and use the words from the parenting course: if the boy cannot control his behaviour, then the outside world will control it for him - which means the police being involved. Maybe what happened has frightened him into seeing that there has to be a change at home. You could tell him that if he lays a hand on you or his siblings again then you will call the police. Ask him to come up with an alternative for what he'll do next time he gets so angry he wants to hit you, e.g. take time out, hit a pillow etc.