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ACS has become involved...

Out of Control Teen and ACS

I have a 15 year old girl completely out-of-control. ACS has become involved questioning my discipline stating I have used corporate punishment. She now gets to do whatever she wants and ACS has made no attempt to help the situation besides railroad me and focus on the irrelevant. I have never abused my child. Most recently, my daughter started to stay out passed curfew and steal from me and other family members. I confronted her about it. She became very hostile to the point I had to push her away, which resulted in two minor scratches to her neck. ACS has filed family court petitions against me to terminate my rights along with criminal proceedings. My daughter gets to stay out to in the morning, etc and dares me to intervene by threatening to call ACS with false allegations. I am trying to do all I can do to save my family but my hands are tied. I feel lost and confused on further actions to take if I am allowed any. Any advise legal or from personal experience will be a great help.

My son is a zombie...

Hi all,

Does anyone have any suggestions regarding alternative treatment for ADHD, I mean something other than ritalin. My son is a zombie. And I worry he'll get addicted to it.

HELP?!

Pot smoking in the house?

Pot smoking in the house?

Would you allow your child to live in a house where there was habitual, blatant pot smoking going on?

"Attachment Parenting"?

Could someone please explain the basic concepts of "Attachment Parenting"?

Specifically in regard to fostered children, if you have any ideas? Thanks!

How can I learn to cope with my husband's 8 year old niece?

* This is long ** How can I learn to cope with my husband's 8 year old niece?

My husband's niece is 8 years old and when she is in my presence she makes me nervous and makes my blood pressure rise. This is my husband's adopted brother's child, but she lives with her mother and brother. She spends 90-95% of the time at my inlaws house. They are older (62 and 67) so they let her get away with highway robbery. She runs through the house, dives off furniture, runs into the walls, climbs up the door frames. She does the same thing when she comes to our house. She puts her feet on the furniture and plays under the coffee table. When I say something to my husband he gets offended and claims she isn't doing anything wrong. She is TERRIBLE. All she has to do is blow a whistle and his parents are front and center. If she says she wants to go home, they take her home no matter what time it is. The same applies when she wants to come over. They tell her to do something and she will stare them right in their eyes until SHE is ready to make a move.

When is the right age to...?

When is the right age to...?

Tell your kids personal stuff? I mean like what age would you concider old enough to tell your kids the truth when they ask you where babies come from? I never asked my mom and so I didn't know for a long time. Obviously I do now, but you know. Like I have this friend and she said that she asked her mom when she was eight and her mom told her everything about sex.

Do you think parents of adult children have selective memory?

Do you think parents of adult children have selective memory?

I am constantly seeing questions and editorials from parents of adult children. Most of them start with "What is wrong with parents these days?". Most of them end with "I never allowed my children to do that." or "My child NEVER behaved inappropriately in public because I taught him better." I think they are full of it. I have three small children and I am around a lot of kids. I personally have NEVER met a perfect one, regarless of how wonderful the parent is. My mother-n-law is full of advice on how to raise children. In private her kids tell of how she abused them and constantly berated them. Funny, she never mentioned those tactics in all of her wonderful lectures. Whew, I feel better.

Is anyone elses days like mine?

Is anyone elses days like mine?

I have a 9 yr old stepson and a 11 month old baby. I get up, i get everyone ready, i walk my stepson to school, i spend most of my day, till my husband comes home at 5, cleaning, washing, dusting etc, looking after my beautiful baby boy, picking up my stepson from school, doing finances, planning, making dinner, making sure the house is beautiful, spending quality time with my boy, putting them to bed, and its only about now at 8.40pm i get to sit down and do what i want to do till i go to bed around 11.30pm and do it all again! lol Just wondered if this is what most mothers do or do you do more/less and how do you feel bout this?
2 days ago - 23 answers - Report Abuse

Should I call CPS?

Should I call CPS?

Theyre these people I use to work with, in fact i still work with one of them. Theyre two girls, roommates, and one of them has 2 children and another on the way. both girls are in their 20's and are constantly drunk, there isn't a sober person EVER watching the children, and I can't help to think what she's doing to the one inside her. They have also been smoking pot, like crazy. Sharing it with the children and having the children drinking beers and things. The mother is to say it nicely a Sleeze, she sleeps with at least 3 diffrent guys a day, and her roommate is a claimed whore, she is also pregnant with a 16 year old boys child. She loves telling people how she's sleeped with 37 guys in like one year. The roommate has been teaching the boys( the 2 children) to do disgusting and disrespectful hand gestures like the two fingers with a tounge between them, the sign for "female oral" it's disgusting. Should I call CPS and make it my business or should I stay out of it?

My problem with my son sleeping in my bed?

My problem with my son sleeping in my bed?

i'm a single parent and have always let my son who is now 7 to sleep in my bed, however, he is now in primary 3 and i thought it was about time he slept in his own bed so this week i have told him if he sleeps in his bed hes a big boy and can go out to play for a while after school which he loves doing but if he doesn't sleep in his bed then he must be too small and therefore to young to go out to play. the first two nights he slept in his bed right through the nights but last night i went into my bed and there he was spralled out snoring away looking so cute but i have told him this morning that he can't go out to play tonight as he didn't sleep in his own bed.

i have been reading other yahoo answers about children sleeping in their parents beds and am now wondering if i'm making to much of a deal about this should i just let him sleep beside me?

Is it WRONG to spank your kids these days????

Is it WRONG to spank your kids these days????

" I SWATTED (NOT spanked) my daughter on..."

WTF is this!?!?! Since when is it against the law or CODE OF SOCIETY or some $hit to spank the everloving F**K out of your kids when they do something wrong??
"It hurts the kids' feelings and mentally scars them fo life." AWWW BOO F**KIN HOO!!
My dad whooped the hell outta me when i was a kid with a leather belt right across my @$$. What is the difference now??

Come on people....get a brain and some balls. Sometimes the best remedy for a smartass kid is a good 'ol *** whoopin.

Misery or single parenthood?

Misery or single parenthood?

I'm intentionally pregnant in a 12 year relationship and my bf is being so horrible that I want out. I am POSITIVE it is not just my hormones as we have a history of his being an asshole, us breaking up, his being sugary sweet and then getting back together. He has caused nothing but strife since I became pregnant. Should I stay in an unhappy relationship because single parenthood is too hard? I'm really scared to do this alone but tired of putting up with his stupidity. And as for communicating with him.... that's the problem He won't talk. At all. I have come to believe he is actually incapable of adult communication. Problem is he makes enough money that I was planning to stay home with my baby for at least a year. Without him I'll have to put her in day care at 2 months. Not ideal. I dunno what to do.

How do i discipline twins...

How do i discipline twins aged 4 and a 9 yr old that arent mine.?

I have recently got involved with a woman with 3 children who are disobedient and have no respect for there mum.

Me personally i was brought up with a firm background and i feel i know how to go about disciplining the children but want some back up advice that what im doing is right.
Mum is soft who will argue all day with them and i cant help but feel that a good firm smack and telling them why they got a smack will save the aggro of months of bull**** listening and explaining....advice please..ps i do have time to talk to them and do otherways but i want them to be intelligent and have respect before 16.

Should I take in a teenager?

Should I take in a teenager?

Okay, My husband and I worked with a youth group at a local church. I got really closed to the pastors oldest daughter. She was going through a rough time and I really felt that God had brought me there to be an influence to her and encourage better behavior. After being there 2 years we felt led to leave the church.

This girl will be 18 in a few weeks. Her parents are really hard on her. She has rededicated her life to the Lord and has really matured through the years. She is a senior and is working a part time job. Her dad refers to her as a pain in his flesh. her parents are always telling her to get a second job to pay for her school supplies and school clothes. She pays her Car payment, Car Taxes, Insurance, gas and cell phone bill. They do not make her younger sister pay for her own cell phone.

She feels really close to me and my family. I have 4 children ages 7 ,4 and 2 year old twins. Should I let her move in with us? What is your opinion?

Well, If she is going to move out anyway, I want her to have a safe place to go and someone who is going to encourage her to finish high school. I do not want her just moving in with a friend. She needs guidance!

I know no one on YA can tell me what to do. I was just looking for opinions.