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Now the problem I have is with the stepfather...

Parents Support One Another @ MyOutOfControlTeen.com/support = I need help with the following issue: I have 2 boys ages 19 and 22. They were pretty much out of control but I've been able to get a handle of them since I signed up with this website several years ago.

Now the problem I have is with the stepfather. He was in a shouting match with the 19year old. He told the kid that he needed to be out of the house by the first of the year (tomorrow). Well I just spoke with the boy and he tells me that he has no where to go but he has a couple of places where he can stay. The boy works parttime.

The stepfather also told the older boy that he needs to move out by Feb 1st. This boy has not been able to find a job. I have even been putting in job applications for him in addition to the jobs he applies for but because of the economy and the fact that few are hiring right now he's still unemployed.

The stepfather who is 71 (and I am 50). We've been together for 15 years and married for 6 years. He has told me that he is tried of raising other peoples children.

I want my kids to be out of the house also but I have a problem with them being forced out before they are ready. I don't want my kids living in a car or spending a couple of nights here and there at various homes.

I'm afraid that if I intervene the stepfather will move out and if I dont intervene my kids will think that I don't care about them.

This maybe the wrong forum for this topic but I don't know where else to turn at this late date.

Help...I don't know how to handle this!

How to Discipline?

My baby boy is 9 months old and has started throwing little fits when he is told "no" ?
He'll arch his back and whine. It just seems as though he has a bit of an attitude already and we don't want that to continue.

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The only thing she wants for Christmas is a cell phone...

Parents Support One Another @ MyOutOfControlTeen.com/support = I need help with the following issue:

My 13 year old daughter says the only thing she wants for Christmas is a cell phone. We had a agreement she could get one after she raised her F up in school, now not only does she have one F she has two. She is trying to talk me into getting a cell phone first and then I will be amazed at how much her grades will go up because she will be happy, and right now she is very unhappy, hates it here and wants to go live with a friend. I am thinking I will stick with our agreement about the grades or no phone. Is it worth it to cause such a battle of her possibly leaving the house? Thank you. please help.

How can I help her to get over him...

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I have a 16 year old daughter who I have made to stop seeing her boyfriend. He stays in trouble all the time and has been caught shoplifting. They dated 8 months. How can I help her to get over him and let her see that he has brought her down and is no good. She can do so much better. I feel like a dirt-bag because I had to do this.

She gets upset, changes the subject, cries in room...

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Whenever I confront my 16 y.o. daughter on...why she got an F (did she do the homework or Not??) she gets upset, changes the subject, cries in room...then I'm left with a husband that is angry with me. I'm so tired of this dividing us. MommaJane

I tried everything with my son...

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I tried everything with my son and this past Friday I asked him to leave. I am so sad and angry that things have come to this, but I don't know what else I can do. I joined this group and bought the program to hopefully help me in someway. I could use all the advice anyone is willing to give me.

I kicked my 17 year old son out of the house...

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I kicked my 17 year old son out of the house for 5 days and I just let him back in. I hope I have done the right thing, it is so hard with Christmas, family.....I bought the book my out of control teen, any success?

Daugher lying, stealing, cheating...

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My 13yr old daughter has been lying; stealing clothes from her sister and now caught cheating in her math class; I am only just beginning the sessions. The math teacher called me this am to advise me of what happened; my question is how do I handle this situation when she comes home from school???? Please help me.

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Comment from OPS member:

Find a clever way to trick her into feeling the same way that someone else would feel if u stole from them and lied. I wouldnt suggest on doing anything harsh, but the restrictions help. I think you should ground her from going anywhere though, if she gets mad, then tell her "If you did not want to have to stay home, then you should not have stole or lied." Thats how I usually set kids straight. After a while if your child feels sad, try to cheer her up and then say something like "If you promise never to steal or lie again, I'll let you go to Saturday." Or... you could just sit down and have a talk with her then keep restrictions on her until she apologizes.

Julie

17 yrs old teenager is not complying...

Parents Support One Another @ MyOutOfControlTeen.com/support = I need help with the following issue: 17 yrs old teenager is not complying and out control, he comes home late and wants to do everything his way.