* This is long ** How can I learn to cope with my husband's 8 year old niece?
My husband's niece is 8 years old and when she is in my presence she makes me nervous and makes my blood pressure rise. This is my husband's adopted brother's child, but she lives with her mother and brother. She spends 90-95% of the time at my inlaws house. They are older (62 and 67) so they let her get away with highway robbery. She runs through the house, dives off furniture, runs into the walls, climbs up the door frames. She does the same thing when she comes to our house. She puts her feet on the furniture and plays under the coffee table. When I say something to my husband he gets offended and claims she isn't doing anything wrong. She is TERRIBLE. All she has to do is blow a whistle and his parents are front and center. If she says she wants to go home, they take her home no matter what time it is. The same applies when she wants to come over. They tell her to do something and she will stare them right in their eyes until SHE is ready to make a move.