My daughter who is 7 told me that her cousin (my brother's son) put his hands in her pants when they were at our parent's house. Of course she hasn't seen him since. I have told my brother about what my daughter said happend, and he got upset at me and told me that is what kids do. I don't think that it is right for him to just get away with it, but I don't want to call the police or anything like that because he is only 12. Should I let this go? And my daughter said that he did this one time before she told me (2 times total). What would you do?
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you should take serious action, i know he is young but he is old enough to understand that what he did was wrong. your daughter will base what you do for her now on whether or not she comes to you later in her life with serious issues. she is your child and you have to do whatever it takes to protect her and let her know that she can trust you. if she came to you with this you need to let her know that her cousin was wrong and that you will do whatever it takes to make sure he doesn't do it again. when i was little something similar happened to me and i finally got the courage to tell and when i did my parents seemed really upset but never did anything about it so i felt really stupid and embarassed and decided not to share BIG things with them anymore. do the right thing...you are her mouth piece!!!
the 12 year old knows what he did is wrong, unless of course he is mentally handicapped. he may end up raping a child. HE NEEDS HELP! If your brother refuses, then he needs to be reported to the authorities. as harsh as this may be, that may be what it takes to stop him from harming another child.
Get your daughter to counseling and checked out by pediatrician.
Do NOT let this go, and it is NOT what kids do your brother is crazy. You do need to call the police or go to your daughters doctor and go from there. If he is brave enough to do it to her chances are he will do it to others, and honestly chances are it has been done to him. You are your daughters only defense. Not only should she never be around him again, he should be turned in. If he is an abuser at 12 he will continue to be an abuser unless he gets help. It is a sickness 12 or not and your daughter has been violated. If you let it go it is basically telling her and your nephew it is OK that it happened.
tell the authorities. He needs therapy NOW. My friend's son was in your daughter's position but it went a lot further slowly. They didn't know anything had happend between him (who was 6) and his 13 year old female cousin until he told another girl in his class to go give him a bl0w j0b and slapped her butt. I'M SERIOUS. Turned out that the 13 year old had been performing oral on little man at least 3 different times. They told authorities and moved away from family until recently, it's been 2 years. She is now a registered sex offender and is in counseling. It is believed someone molested her, but she refuses to give names. She only describes what has happened. He needs help now or it'll only get worse one way or another.
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