Online Parent Support Chat

He has no motivation...

We are about ready to send our son away to military school. He has no motivation to do well at school, constantly argues with us & his sister, tells us to shut up all the time, and has no respect for anyone else. We are at our wits end.

Online Parent Support

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

i would send him to a military school, they will straighten him out for the better.

Anonymous said...

I think you should first let him see a threrapist to see what ithe problem is. and then send him to military school because it would give him something to do. Most teenages get into trouble because they have to much free time on their hands. Military school will take up all of that extra time . It will give him something to do and still help him to get his educations. If everything works out he might just join the us mlitary as an officer someone of higher rank because he had training all ready in a military school.

Anonymous said...

Yes, military schools have a way of addressing discipline problems very effectively, but it's important to assess whether or not even that option would be in his best interest. He's acting out for a reason (and it's not just youth), and military schools are not catch-all solutions that fit every circumstance.

Talk to his school authorities to get their take on his situation at this time....discuss candidly your plans to see if they feel it's a viable option. I wish you the best of luck in this regard.

Anonymous said...

I don't think a therapist is going to be able to help him immediately, although obviously he needs counseling badly. I would talk to the case worker at family services or I would talk to his counselor at school, or the police and see if this is of any benefit to him at all.

Anonymous said...

Our son is 15 and we've had a year of changes in friends, interests and disrespect and lack of effort in school. We have good days and bad days. I have people praying for him and us as his parents. Some days I think if I knew parenting a teen would be this hard I'm not sure I would have had kids! He has so much potential and family that loves him. We're just trying to find family things to do and take one day at a time. I'm afraid military school would only make him bitter. He's considering military after high school and I think that would be the best thing for him. I'm considering counseling first for if things get too bad. If I knew he'd grow up to be a great adult, like his 23 year old brother, it wouldn't be so hard now. I don't have any answers. We just need to network as parents and pray for each other.