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He basically changes his personality...

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Hi All, just started on the programme, Monday will be Day One! My son's problems seem to be all school based, generally showing off, being the class comedian and being abusive to his teachers. He is dyslexic and will just not do any work. He is very intelligent and manages to get his grades even though he does nothing. One issue that is very noticable with him, one to one he is great. Introduce another child or adult and he basically changes his personality to being abusive, impudent and forgets all the rules, anything goes when he is with his friends. I've tried to find information on why he does this, can anyone help me understand why he changes?

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4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Do u think maybe he is bored with the level he is on in the class room?..my daughter last year was also in the 1st grade and she started to act out then i found out cause the work she was doing was making her bored and was to easy for her so they tested her and she was put in advanced class for reading and math...she was find after that cause they callenged her mind...just a thought...good luck!

Anonymous said...

Something must rock his world? Thats what you take away?!My son got one sad bear in K and he got the disapointed in you speech, not acceptable behavior, education is important, school is important speech and no TV until the weekend. we haven't had a repeat-he's consistiently a good boy starting 2nd grade

Anonymous said...

Maybe you can start by using some kind of points (or star) for prizes reward system on a whiteboard or some poster. Then you can give him a point when he does something nice or good (like put away all of his toys when he is done playing with them) and take away a point every time he does something that he isnt supposed to do (like not following directions in school) When he as accumulated a certain amount of points, give him a prize or allow him to not exchange them right now and save up for a bigger prize. Just dont be too generous on the points (like 3 points gets you a small prize or something) or anything or else this might not work.

If this doesnt really work, then you might have to start doing time outs and spankings. Just dont spank him for the smallest things and only use this if time outs dont work. Also, you can try and say that your going to spank him (cuz he hit you or something for example) and if he doesnt bite, follow up your words with action.

Try positive reinforcements first and if that doesnt work, go to punishment. I also suggest having a chat with the teacher and talk to your son about his behavior at school cuz i think talking helps too.

Ramona said...

Thank you all for your comments. Week 1 Day 1, set out some rules for doing simple chores and a point system, earn the points get the pocket money. Well so far, he's decided that he's leaving home, wanted to call childline because doing chores is next to slavery, accused me of blackmail, then he flounced off with his mobile phone and sat in the garden shed for two hours. I never lost the plot with him, didn't get him out of the shed, and hey, he came back in from the shed with the decision that he needed a epithany (very good with words my son) and that to help himself and how he feels he must help himself especially at school. Early days, but definately a result.