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She gets upset, changes the subject, cries in room...

Parents Support One Another @ MyOutOfControlTeen.com/support = I need help with the following issue:

Whenever I confront my 16 y.o. daughter on...why she got an F (did she do the homework or Not??) she gets upset, changes the subject, cries in room...then I'm left with a husband that is angry with me. I'm so tired of this dividing us. MommaJane

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Obviously you have not read the recommendation for dealing with school problems - or you wouldn't be asking this question.

Anonymous said...

Hi MommaJane,

There's helpful info in the online ebook on this. I think it's under "read emails from exasperated parents" in session 4.

Good luck,

Sue S.

Anonymous said...

Start punishing her. Help her out with her homework and devote some time each day to studying with her. Tell her if she doesn't want to be serving me coffee the rest of her life that she has to grow up and get serious about her grades. I wish my parents did that for me instead of just letting me skate by because now I'm incredibly lazy.

Anonymous said...

You just need to get tougher,Start taking away privileges like seeing friends at the weekends.Tell her that if she is does not want to end up with a dead beat lowpaid job like flipping hamburgers she has to get her act together.

Anonymous said...

What is one of the worst things that pre-teens never want t be with??? Their parents. This is what I suggest as a parent and as a teacher. Now to do this you will need to talk to all her teachers, your husband & your boss if you work. The idea, to follow her to all her classes for 2 weeks. Most teachers don't mind if parents sit in on their classes, but I suggest you try to meet with them to make sure. And ask your husband if he feels that the idea is ok with him. And talk to your boss if it is ok to take the time off if you work. What you do, is take her to school and go to each and every class and sit right next to her. when she goes to break and lunch you sit right next to her! Then you can see what she is doing in class and what she is suppose to be taking home for homework. After school you take her home and she does her homework. you check it and do the whole thing over again for two weeks. Mean while she doesn't get to be with her friends, watch tv, no music or computer ( unless she does her homework on it).