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He is totally direspectful...

Parents Support One Another @ MyOutOfControlTeen.com/support = hi i have a son who is 17 and a half. He is totally direspectful in words and deeds. He uses foul language when he cant get his own way. his room is like a rubbish tip. refuses to work or go to college to get an education . By the way he has been excluded from previous schools and cant be bothered to fininsh any studies. He says it is boring and cant be bothered. He spends most of his time spitting and writting bars and chatting on the phone. He has had trouble with the law and has been on a supervision order which he he has just completed.Either he goes to bed learly hours of the morning or he is over sleeping. he does not do anything in the house aprt from damaging property making a mess. We never know waht mood he is going to be in as he has constant mood swings. He only seems happy when we dont onfront him. Even when he does do something like washing his clothes the whole house is in a big mess. Punis! hments does not work for him. I know that he does smoke maruana, but i am not sure if he is taking anything else. The frustrating thing about this is he is talentented in both music and sport, but he just cant be bothered to get up and get involved. Probably by the time you get this letter he would probaly be in prison because he has just assaulted a youth or i would have kicked him out. I can not take anymore. I do not believe that this is just normal teenage behaviour or rebellion.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

You seem to have a good heart, but now it's time for tough love. Your son needs to learn the consequences of his actions. You need to establish a line that he can't cross without him being held liable for it. Be prepared that he might get upset and move out. That is just part of tough love. You can't make a child obey, but you can let them know what will happen if they don't. Then you have to follow through with your threats. Good Luck

Anonymous said...

You might have been too good a parent. YOu might have spoiled him. He does not respect and he's not scared of you anymore. It might be too late. Ask for help from your community leaders.

Anonymous said...

I think maybe the problem is that you've tried to be too good. Now, he needs some good, old-fashioned discipline. Next time he flips out, call the police on him.