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How do I get through what will be the toughest Christmas ever?

How do I get through what will be the toughest Christmas ever? This will be the first Christmas since our daughter passed away from leukemia and I have NO idea how I am going to get through it. I love Christmas and I have been trying so hard to push these feelings down so that our other kids can enjoy, but today it all came back. My 3yr old asked me if his sister would be back for Christmas(he hasn't mentioned her for a while) and it broke my heart to tell him no. I have a feeling that this is only the beginning of many more questions. Any ideas on how to deal with one of the worst times of my life while making it a fun and joyful one for my kids?

I do see a therapist and medication is available, but I'm trying to minimize it.


Anonymous said...

OMG I am so sorry, I think a good idea for you and maybe your son is to go to the mall or where ever and get a paper angel that's about your daughters age, being able to buy for a girl who needs your gifts may help, your son might want to help if you explain why. I don't really know what to say.

Anonymous said...

First off I am so sorry to hear about your daughters passing. No words that I can tell you will make you feel any better, just know that she is no longer suffering. I don't think you will ever completely get over it, but I do know that it will get easier in time. Keep your head up, but it is okay to be sad.

Anonymous said...

I cannot begin to imagine how you are feeling. It's completely understandable though. I know it's hard, but your little guy needs you now. If he has questions, answer them to the best of your ability. If there are some you cannot answer, don't fret. He's at an age still where he may not fully understand everything. If you need to breakdown, then do so. You're human, you still have emotions. Try to cherish these moments you still have with your son, it doesn't have to be all about presents. You guys can bake cookies together, decorate Christmas cards, read Christmas stories, etc.

You ARE a strong person and you will be okay. Obviously this hurt will not heal all at once and there is always going to be a little piece of your heart missing, and that is okay. I wish you the best of luck.