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Trouble with the police...

Hi my son has recently been in trouble with the police and has been gone for one full week tomorrow although he says he is coming home tomorrow i am not too sure he will. He has other issues also, severe depression (only finally recently diagnosed!), not sure how he fits into the family situation as his dad was killed at work nearly 2 years ago, he isn't at school as he was asked not to return until he got help (he has been having professional help all the way through but is not accepting anything anyone says to him), he is 15 1/2 and i love him to bits but am so saddened that i cannot help him at the moment. Would like to know if anyone has any advice of how to handle to situation in the upcoming days ahead?

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Anonymous said...

If your child is missing and you need help in searching for them, call us at 786-499-7798.

One in seven teens will run away from home sometime before the age of 18 more than one million each year. Some will run more than once.

Every year approximately 5,000 runaway and homeless children die from assault, illness, and suicide. The National Runaway Switchboard (NRS), a national hotline and resource for youth and the sponsor of the annual Runaway Prevention Month, advises that there is no typical runaway youth as they cross all socio-economic lines.

Most missing children--and nearly all missing teens--are runaways. The tips outlined below are designed to help you, as parents, cope with the missing child situation that you are most likely to encounter--the runaway.


The best way to prevent a runaway is to spend time with each of your children and to listen to them: regularly, nonjudgementally, and with your full attention.

Take their concerns seriously. Don't dismiss their worries or fears.

Pay attention when they ask for help and make your responsiveness a top priority.

Confront trouble signs directly, firmly, and calmly. Discuss your concern and the consequences of continued unacceptable behavior without lecturing.

Talk with your child's teachers and the parents of their friends. They may have helpful observations and suggestions. Talk with professionals.

Warning Signs

It's easy to confuse signs of trouble with the usual adolescent turmoil--it's hard to tell the difference. But when real problems are in the making, the signs outlined here usually come in clusters. Observance of the signs should cause concern, rather than undue alarm.

Sleep Changes - fatigue, early morning wakenings, insomnia, increased sleeping

Personality Changes - abrupt mood swings, excessive blow-ups triggered by small things, apathy, boredom, irritability, preoccupation with a single thought.

Withdrawal from the Family - growing isolation, increased violation of house rules, avoidance of family gatherings even at meals

School Problems - falling grades, truancy, cutting classes, fights, and disciplinary problems.

Withdrawal from Friends - fallouts with friends, hostility toward former friends, new (older) friends, reluctance to introduce parents to new friends.

Over Reaction to Family - prolonged reaction to loss or stress from death, divorce, illness, loss of job, a move to another city.

Trust Your Feelings - Parents often have "gut" feelings when something is wrong. Trust those feelings and watch for these signs.

If Your Child Runs Away . . .

Think Clearly - Where might your child be? With a friend, headed for a relative or divorced parent?

Record - Keep a record of everyone you contact. Write down your own feelings just to clear your head

Look for Clues - Check his/her room for signs of preparation. Ask friends, teachers, coaches for ideas. Check neighborhood hangouts.

Take Action - File a missing persons report with local police. Call Us at 786-499-7798 to talk to us about helping you search for them. Call this 24-hour hotline; 1-800-RUN-AWAY. They can help connect you with services in your area and can assist you in thinking through your plan of action.

If Your Child Calls - Remain calm. Show love and concern. If he/she is not ready to return home, give him/her one of these numbers and encourage them to call (1-800-RUN-AWAY) or (1-800-339-7177).

When Your Child Returns; Running is your child's cry for help. Unresolved family conflicts can lead to frequent running. It is a good idea to seek family counseling to solve the problems that led to your child running away. Prevent future runaway episodes by getting help.